In my previous post on Showing Yourself Love I chose to use the word “reason” instead of “excuse” and I’ll explain why. We all do things to the best of our knowledge and we all do things because we believe them to be good reasons. We all think differently and by using the word excuse, we tend to use it to put ourselves or others down. What may seem an excuse to you and me, might actually be a very valid reason to someone else. We don’t have to understand, but we do have to accept and the reason I say accept is because no matter how much we would like them to see otherwise, it’s most likely that they won’t. I do want to emphasis that you also can’t ignore your responsibilities and use the word “reason”. There is a fine line between them and I don’t want you to misunderstand on what side of the line you are in.
You can have a parent on the side of reason that was abandoned by one of their parents and do the same to their children because that’s all they know. To us it might not seem reasonable but if that’s all they know and instead of receiving help, all they receive is judgment, what else can we expect.
Now, lets try the same scenario but with a slight twist. You have a parent that was left by one of his or her parent. But in replacement, they we blessed with an amazing step-parent. At this point, they are being taught the importance of parenting a child with unconditional love and most likely raise their kids with that same love and nurture.
Both of these scenarios are results of “reason”. Where this changes to the side of excuse is when in the second scenario, the parent knows better but still chooses to leave his or her family. At the moment that you know better, that is the moment that you cross that fine line to the side of excuse. Be reasonable, loving and understanding to those we don’t understand, because that’s all we can do until they learn anything different by others or on their own. Many times we are taught better, but for one reason or another, we still believe in our old habits until we choose to be open and see whats around us. Unfortunately until then, i am me… you are you and they will be who they are. Whether they are right or not. Each mind has created their own world and we might not understand it, but by living as a better example rather than judging, we bring them closer to their Godly reasoning.
